Divorce makes me so angry

Here is a short note to a brother:

"I was just thinking about you and I was praying for your family. I know that your wife is far from perfect, but I am praying for restoration anyway. I assume you were married in the Christian sense and not just the legal sense. If that is the case, you have desolved the contract, but the vow before God remains. Don't be guilty of perjuring yourself in God's court. Go back to your family. You are their protector. I pray that you will undo this great violence you have done to your wife and children."

In addition to violently abusing the wife to whom he has a Biblical mandate to protect, the children are also violently abused in the process.

The man that is married in the Christian sense is the covenent initiater. As such, he bears the full responsiblity to see that the covenent is fulfilled. Christian marriage is not a legal contract based on distrust of the other party (if you do this, I will do this... as long as I feel a certain way). It is not a legal contract that can be desolved at the whim of one party or the other. Christian marriage is a covenent relationship before God. God has a covenent with Isreal. They act like a bunch of goof balls. Yet God is faithful to His covenent even when the object of the covenent is unlovable and unloving. Marriage is a picture of God's covenent with us. The man is responsible for the integrity of the covenent.

The emotional abuse to the children in irrepairable. They will carry the rejection with them the rest of their life. No gift or "quality time" with dad can undo the damage a child suffers when daddy rejects mommy. If Daddy can stop loving Mommy, he can stop loving me too. Maybe he has already stopped loving me. Maybe that's why he left.

There is no greater gift you can give to your kids than to love their Mommy.

In addition to abusing your wife and children, the BODY OF CHRIST is damaged when you leave your family. How dare you sever the body in this way and then tell me "its none of your business." When the toe is bleeding, how can it say to the hands, "leave me alone.. this doesn't concern you." We are a body and we ALL feel the pain of this violence that has been inflicted upon the body.

In addition to abusing your spouse, your children, and the body of Christ, you are abusing your country and neglecting your patriotic duty to make the country strong. Our country is weaker every time the fabric of our society (the family) is torn apart. You are a traitor to your country.

But there is hope. You do not HAVE to be a child abuser and a wife abuser. You do not HAVE to inflict this damage to the body of Christ. You do not HAVE to be a traitor to your country. God knows that we are dust. He knows our flesh is weak. Turn back to your family. They desparately want you to come home. It will take a lot of hard work, but your children need you at home. Turn back to God. He is waiting for you like the father waiting for the prodigal son. The fatted calf is ready for the feast the moment you come home. Your country is counting on your children to be the strength of the next generation. Go home so that they can be strong.

I am praying desparately for the restoration of your marriage. So are your children.

But if you are determined to inflict this violence on your family and on society, I think it would be better if God took you home right away. Surely the pain of being a widow or an orphan is easier to bear than the pain of rejection. I pray that you will go home or that God will take you from this earth - for the sake of your children.